That's true, yeah, and I hadn't thought about it like that. Mostly we just weren't interested in having a Big Traditional Wedding; we're both long lapsed from any Church affiliation, I paid my lifetime organize-a-giant-banquet-event dues with the 2000 Nebula Awards weekend in New York, and most of the romantic trappings of the large-scale wedding didn't appeal to either of us. I might have gotten political about boycotting marriage as a U.S. legal institution until people of the same sex can get married anywhere in the country, but that's a whole nother issue. *g* And with this, what I found was that a small and simple wedding can be just as charming and just as beautifully, personally moving as a large one (maybe more so, because you're not as distracted and freaked and exhausted), and that even a small and simple ceremony can quickly threaten to get out of control and turn into a something suspiciously resembling a Big Deal Wedding if you don't do it very fast. Commando Wedding! Surgical Strike! *g*